Why can’t you SAY it?

akhilsethi randomnomics blog life is shortIt’s hard to believe but sometimes relationships suffer just because we don’t want to initiate. I’m surprised to see even people who love each other or are very close wants the other person to initiate or behave as per expectations!

Is it their ego which comes in between to say/ask/request anything OR matching expectations is of utmost importance?

Will you answer these for me?

If you expect anything from someone and you know you’ll be disheartened if that person doesn’t do what you are expecting, why can’t you just say it? Why do you have to wait for the other person’s actions? Is that loved one smaller than the things you expect?

Moral: People (esp. loved ones) are ALWAYS bigger than what they say or how they react…so don’t take their words too seriously. And if you want something from someone, just SAY it. You won’t become smaller or he won’t become bigger. Just SAY it. Always remember… Everybody’s different here. The way you behave or react, it’s not necessary that others would behave in the same manner. Appreciate the fact, SAY it and move on. LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO BE TAKEN SERIOUSLY!

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The LOVE Story

This post is about a person’s love story whom I know from my childhood. His story has inspired me a lot and have made me more confident/optimistic in each and everything what I do. The way I approach things, the way I try to remain calm in difficult situations, almost everything is inspired by his love story and yes, the result. 🙂

I won’t get into too much details but the post will give you a fair idea of all the incidents that happened. So, without further ado, here you go. And, to keep it simple and anonymous, I would use ‘B’ as the boy’s name and ‘G’ as the girl’s name.

So, B was from a so-called big town and G was from a small town. After B passed his schooling, he got admission into one of the engineering colleges in that small town where he met G. G was a simple girl with high ambitions; they both met in the second year of college and fell in love with each other. Their relationship continued till the college got over and on the last day, B proposed the girl. The girl didn’t said yes but told him that she will think and let him know later.

B was optimistic and knew that G was also in love with him but afraid of saying a yes. So, B gave G ample time to think about it. Meanwhile their long-distance relationship continued for 4 months. Suddenly, one day G called B and told him that she thinks she is in love with him. Boy got ecstatic and boarded the next morning bus to the small town to meet her and discuss everything in detail. They both met and this word ‘think’ from the above sentence just got removed 🙂

After sometime, G got placed in one of the reputed companies in the big town. So, their long relationship just became shorted because of the placement and as the time passed by, their relationship became stronger and stronger.

After few years, G’s father started receiving lot of  marriage proposals for her daughter and hence he started pressurizing her to get married. G, then told her father about this relationship he had with B. Here father got furious as she was a baniya and the boy was punjabi and doing an inter-caste marriage would be really bad.

However G tried to convince her father about B, his good family and how she would live happy after she would get married afterwards. After upteem number of requests, her father got convinced and agreed but on certain conditions which were – a) there’s won’t be any big function and b) there’s won’t be much people from B’s family on that marriage venue.

B agreed all this and with all support from his parents, family and friends, on the ‘the’ day, he went to the small town with only ten people in two innovas. During the whole journey from big town to small town, B didn’t utter a single word but when they were coming back after the rituals, B only showed her feeling when they crossed the small town. 🙂

The story inspires me a lot and emphasize on the fact that if you want something very badly, all the world conspires you, helps you in achieving that. You just have to be optimistic / positive towards that thing and in the end you will surely achieve the same.

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