Help Gulshan to fulfil his dream!

What happens when a small town boy come to a big town to earn a livelihood and fulfil his dream?

Yes, either he tries to earn a livelihood OR fulfil his dream. The point here is, it’s “OR”& not AND. It’s difficult to get both and that’s true for us also but when you think about the same for a person who hails from a small town, it’s even more difficult. Yes, it’s tough and such is life!

This is the story of Gulshan who came to Delhi from Himachal to earn his livelihood, support his old ailing father and his family back there and in the meanwhile yes, he had a dream of becoming a cricketer too.

He thought that Delhi would be his city of dreams like most of the us think be it for Delhi or Mumbai but what unfolded was something he didn’t expect at all.

With a basic college degree and not much experience, it became really difficult for him as well as his brother. They used to search for jobs day in and day out but without much luck. After many months of struggle, Gulshan did got a job however his brother didn’t. So, now, he has to sustain his living, his brother’s and even his family back their in the hills and that too from a meagre salary of INR 15,000 ($220) per month. Meanwhile, another tragedy happened, his father got a heart attack and required immediate medical attention. Though with the help of his friends and family, he somehow managed to provide the medical treatment and his father condition improved but his financial condition was still the same. At this point, Gulshan was on the verge of breakdown…he didn’t know what to do next where to find the support. He discussed his situation with his friends & family and somehow gathered his composure to think about his life. He then focussed on his work and started doing double-shifts and even triple-shifts (if that’s even a shift) in a day to cover up for his father’s ongoing treatment and to sustain his family’s livelihood. Things started to come on track however it was still difficult for him to do everything on his own and sustain that self-motivation to earn for his family.

As they say, nothing is constant, not even bad times, finally something good came up. He gave a state-level trial and got selected for it. To cut the big story short, he has to start the conditioning camp and play matches and for that he has to leave his current job for 3 months which would eventually mean … no salary at all for these 3 months starting mid-June ’18.

THIS is his LAST chance to become a professional cricketer and he has made up his mind to take this RISK. But for this, he needs YOUR support just to sustain his living for these 3 months when he’ll be at the camp and working hard for his selection at the professional level.  And I guess, THIS is your chance to become a part of his journey, to do something good, something which he’ll remember for his life.

Yes, there’s  MS Dhoni – he has become what he is now, but it was not without support from his friends or family. Now is the chance for us to do what his friends did in whatever way we can.

I know it’s not easy for us to shell out money but I can assure you if you do support in whatever way you can, YOU will definitely feel good when Gulshan will become a professional cricketer. YOU will be able to say to others that because of your support he’s where he’s now. Close your eyes and imaging the feeling.

So go ahead and contribute with whatever is possible. Be it monetary or be it with food/vegetables/fruits anything which can help him to sustain these 3 months. Just ONE more time, just the last time because he deserves your support for whatever hardships he has faced in life.

P.S: All the money as well as our WISHES collected from this will directly be shared with Gulshan and no-one else. That’s my promise!!

Gulshan’s account details:

A/c no.: 36112730842
IFSC: SBIN0006069
Branch: Ishwar Nagar, New Friends Colony

You can also PAYTM him on 8178705433

If you want to connect with him on Facebook, here’s his profile link https://www.facebook.com/gulshan.chadhary
This is the league where he has been selected https://www.cplt20india.in/

 

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Why to waste time?

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Ok, you had an argument with a close one, a rather bad one, but who doesn’t? I’m sure everyone would have at some point of time or probably many of them till date.

But are you the one who elongate the matter OR the one who initiates and approaches the other person?

If you know that other person is important and will live with you forever and this will be just a day that’ll be written off, why you’d WASTE time in elongating or by that matter exaggerating the issue? Consider this… Life is too short and you’ve just wasted some precious moments out of it. Some moments which you could’ve spent together doing something memorable or something important.

Always remember:

  • a) People are important, not their actions. Once you’re sure of a person, don’t let anything come in between
  • Don’t waste time to approach and say SORRY. Saying it won’t make you smaller or other person bigger, it’ll only show how much mature YOU are!
  • Keep you ego aside always. That’s the best thing you could do in any altercation with close ones
  • There’s always a time to do the right thing. Don’t ever think that … right now would be a bad time to do the right thing
  • Lastly if you know, you’ll be NORMAL after sometime, don’t waste that time to get normal. Think, discuss and get over it as soon as possible. Again saying…Life is too short to be taken seriously. So, have fun and enjoy life!

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Why can’t you SAY it?

akhilsethi randomnomics blog life is shortIt’s hard to believe but sometimes relationships suffer just because we don’t want to initiate. I’m surprised to see even people who love each other or are very close wants the other person to initiate or behave as per expectations!

Is it their ego which comes in between to say/ask/request anything OR matching expectations is of utmost importance?

Will you answer these for me?

If you expect anything from someone and you know you’ll be disheartened if that person doesn’t do what you are expecting, why can’t you just say it? Why do you have to wait for the other person’s actions? Is that loved one smaller than the things you expect?

Moral: People (esp. loved ones) are ALWAYS bigger than what they say or how they react…so don’t take their words too seriously. And if you want something from someone, just SAY it. You won’t become smaller or he won’t become bigger. Just SAY it. Always remember… Everybody’s different here. The way you behave or react, it’s not necessary that others would behave in the same manner. Appreciate the fact, SAY it and move on. LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO BE TAKEN SERIOUSLY!

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The Power of Togetherness

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This post is not about one single memorable day but a memorable journey with my life partner who gave me the strength and motivation at a time during which I required the most.

There was a time when things were not going good for me. I completed my B.Tech in 2007 in Electronics and communication. After that, I didn’t want to pursue the tech. field any further OR even get placed in a technical role in any of the reputed companies as I was way too bored with the subjects that I cleared 🙂 Hence I paused my life a bit, took a step back and thought what could be the best way to approach life or I’d should say my professional career going forward.

After some so-called introspection, I decided to prepare for MBA entrance exams as I thought this would be the best way to completely shift from an engineering background to a non-engineering one 🙂

Deciding to go for the MBA entrance exams was one thing, preparing for the same was another but the hardest was scoring well and getting into one of the reputed MBA schools. To prepare for the exams, I did two things:

a) Moved to a different place within Delhi with two of my best buddies

b) Joined one of the coaching institutes which gave me all the preparation material which was required

Apart from these, the coaching institute’s faculty was good and very supportive with every student. The preparation went well for initial month, but after that the coaching institute started taking mock tests where the actual realization happened 🙂 One after another, I scored below par in each of them and this had a negative impact on my confidence as well as preparation. Me and my buddies who were preparing with me scored well but not that well to expect a call from any of the reputed B-schools. We used to have long conversations with each other on the approach or tactics we should deploy to counter our low percentile in mock-tests, but we weren’t able to think of anything concrete which could save us.

I also used to discuss all this with my girlfriend and ultimately she came to my rescue. She showed confidence in me as she knew if I work hard and stick to it, I would definitely get entry into any of the reputed B-schools. Because of her belief in my abilities and dedication, I did clear entrance exam of one of the reputed institutes. Even today, I still remember our phone calls and meetings where she used to push me to work hard for it.

I just want to thank her to give me power, making me remain optimistic during those difficult times. Without her, this wouldn’t have been possible 🙂

This post was created for: https://housing.com/in

 

Starting A New Life

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Starting a new life is all about taking a big step or I’d call a bold step for the betterment of an individual or people surrounding that individual. This step could result in a big change in one’s life. Change – a good change signifies that we’re moving forward, living better, and giving ourselves the chance to be the best we can possibly be.

This post is about a step I recently took and now just hoping that things would move in the right direction going forward. Before coming straight to the point, let’s just talk about the background.

It’s been more than 3 years I’ve got married with the girl I love the most. I work in Gurgaon and it used to usually take around one hour and fifteen minutes daily for me to reach my office from my home (in West Delhi). And on top of that, it took around two hours for my wife to reach her office (in South Delhi) from our home. Because of this distance, she wasn’t able to spend anytime at home with my family and  hence couldn’t contribute that much to the daily household work as per her liking. Hence, it used to cause a bit of frustration in her as well as my mother as she also expected her daughter in law’s support in everything. Moreover, we were also blessed with a baby boy last year. So, it was kind of becoming very difficult for my wife to give justice to her office work and to manage anything at home including baby’s needs. When situation got a bit difficult to handle, me and my wife took a decision to shift from West Delhi to South Delhi, so that she can get more time at home and look after the baby. Getting a good house on rent in Delhi is not that easy, one has to research a lot. From checking various property websites, talking to friends, family and relatives and to meeting every dealer in that locality, it was really tough for us. With a thorough research of around 6 months, we finalized one house in South Delhi locality which could be good for all us including my parents. Finalizing a house was the first thing and I would say a comparatively easy thing than convincing my parents who lived in West Delhi from past twenty-five years. We both carefully thought about each and every aspect of our parents comfortability and tried to explain our situation in details. With much discussions and our request, our parents agreed and till today me and my wife are really grateful to them. Someone has really said that your parents may not be perfect but they are indeed the most precious gift GOD has given to you! So, really treasure them, yes, till the end of your life.

It’s been around a month that we have shifted to the new place. Though things are going too smooth but yes, I’m sure it will in the due course of time. All in all, I think you just need to stay positive or be optimistic in your life’s journey and everything would fall in place for the betterment.

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The LOVE Story

This post is about a person’s love story whom I know from my childhood. His story has inspired me a lot and have made me more confident/optimistic in each and everything what I do. The way I approach things, the way I try to remain calm in difficult situations, almost everything is inspired by his love story and yes, the result. 🙂

I won’t get into too much details but the post will give you a fair idea of all the incidents that happened. So, without further ado, here you go. And, to keep it simple and anonymous, I would use ‘B’ as the boy’s name and ‘G’ as the girl’s name.

So, B was from a so-called big town and G was from a small town. After B passed his schooling, he got admission into one of the engineering colleges in that small town where he met G. G was a simple girl with high ambitions; they both met in the second year of college and fell in love with each other. Their relationship continued till the college got over and on the last day, B proposed the girl. The girl didn’t said yes but told him that she will think and let him know later.

B was optimistic and knew that G was also in love with him but afraid of saying a yes. So, B gave G ample time to think about it. Meanwhile their long-distance relationship continued for 4 months. Suddenly, one day G called B and told him that she thinks she is in love with him. Boy got ecstatic and boarded the next morning bus to the small town to meet her and discuss everything in detail. They both met and this word ‘think’ from the above sentence just got removed 🙂

After sometime, G got placed in one of the reputed companies in the big town. So, their long relationship just became shorted because of the placement and as the time passed by, their relationship became stronger and stronger.

After few years, G’s father started receiving lot of  marriage proposals for her daughter and hence he started pressurizing her to get married. G, then told her father about this relationship he had with B. Here father got furious as she was a baniya and the boy was punjabi and doing an inter-caste marriage would be really bad.

However G tried to convince her father about B, his good family and how she would live happy after she would get married afterwards. After upteem number of requests, her father got convinced and agreed but on certain conditions which were – a) there’s won’t be any big function and b) there’s won’t be much people from B’s family on that marriage venue.

B agreed all this and with all support from his parents, family and friends, on the ‘the’ day, he went to the small town with only ten people in two innovas. During the whole journey from big town to small town, B didn’t utter a single word but when they were coming back after the rituals, B only showed her feeling when they crossed the small town. 🙂

The story inspires me a lot and emphasize on the fact that if you want something very badly, all the world conspires you, helps you in achieving that. You just have to be optimistic / positive towards that thing and in the end you will surely achieve the same.

This post was written as a part of indiblogger contest for https://housing.com/lookup.

If you’d like to know more about the details of this story, do get in touch with me here, on my twitter handle.

Keep Calm And Stay Strong

akhilsethi randomnomics blog keep calm and stay strongThey say a healthy mind in a healthy body is ideal to strive for. It’s the human mind which governs each and every action that our body takes and hence responsible for the our behavior towards others in every situation. And…our behavior towards others in turn results in how others perceive you as a person. Few months back, I wrote a post where I discussed about our fast-paced lives and how we try to meet others expectations. Today, I will give you some simple tips on how you can keep yourself calm in almost every situation and get out of it without adversely affecting your mind or body.

1. Be content with what you have: I’m not saying that one should not be ambitious or one should not strive for achieving more but do try appreciate what you already have. While reading this, just pause for a moment and look around you. Think about your child, your parents, your siblings, your friends, things you have already accomplished till now. Thank GOD for the same just carry on. You’ll definitely feel good!

2. Be optimistic: A great way to keep yourself calm and not get hassled in any tough situation is by being optimistic. Just be positive and my dear friend, I’m sure, you’ll be able to withstand any tough situation.

3. Don’t compare yourself with others: I have seen many people around me comparing their life with others and getting sad or disappointed about what they don’t have. People sometimes also get frustrated (of what they don’t have) after seeing so-called happy pics of their friends on Facebook. They also tend to forget that those friends might not upload their pics when they were sad. So, one should always look at himself or herself in absolute terms rather in comparison.

4. Have patience: Patience, persistence and tolerance are the keys to a successful life. Have realistic personal as well as professional goals and stick to them keeping mind the above three.

5. Don’t regret: While making a decision, think it through from all the angles but when you’ve already made one, whatever be the consequences, just don’t regret. Instead, take it as an experience, learn from it and move on.

6. Ego: While moving up on your professional ladder, you need to learn how to manage your ego. A successful leader is always admired how he or she treats his or her subordinates. (I discussed about it earlier too here – point no. 7)

7. Manage your expectations well: Yes, when you do something for others, your expectations increases from that person. You tend to think that he or she will also respond or return the favor in the same manner but when it doesn’t happens, things get little messed up. But, to avoid these situations, from the next time, just try to lower down your expectations a bit and feel the difference

8. Love others: Lastly, show your love towards others. People who are around you, who you think will always be with you, just show them your love, sometimes your unconditional love. Believe me, this will never get unnoticed and will always help you to keep things in a controlled and calm manner.

I feel these are the ways in which most of the successful people try to remain calm. What do you think? Are there more ways in which one can keep himself or herself calm in tough situations? Do let me know in the comments sections below. Would be happy to discuss!